Don’t feel comfortable giving yourself a public pat on the back? There are ways to promote yourself without being too self-centered.
1. Promote your accomplishments. You don’t have to act self-centered in order to promote yourself. Instead, you can focus on what you’ve achieved, not who you are. When you talk about the things you’ve accomplished, mention how they helped out bigger goals that were above and beyond your personal goals. Show your value and explain how you contributed to your company, organization, or team. This will take the focus off you and put it where it belongs: on the greater good.
2. Brag safely at first. A lot of people are used to deflecting compliments, which can make it difficult to know how to brag the right way. In the beginning, only brag in “safe” environments, like at home, when you’re around your family. There, you’ll be supported for your accomplishments and encouraged to share more about them. Once you are comfortable bragging around people who are close to you, you’ll start to get comfortable doing it in mixed company, even if Steve Wynn is in the room! Also, ask your loved ones for honest feedback. Do you sound too egotistical, or do you simply sound proud and happy that you’re making a contribution?
3. Make self-promotion a mindset. Whenever you enter a room, ask yourself what you have to offer in that specific situation. Do you want to tell your boss that you completed the project you’ve been working on? Do you want to talk about your day with a co-worker? Figure out what positive attribute you want to highlight for that specific situation, then find someone to share it with. Make sure it’s a two-way street, though. After you talk about yourself, leave the floor open for other people to talk about themselves, too. The better a listener you are when others talk, the more willing they’ll be to listen when you have something to say.
4. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to sell yourself. A lot of people sit back and wait for praise or acknowledgement. Sometimes, you have to take matters into your own hands and broach the topic yourself. Remember, other people aren’t purposely not asking about you. Maybe they just don’t know that you have news you want to share!
It’s okay to sell yourself. Self-promotion helps other people to view you in the way you want to be viewed. By presenting yourself in a certain way, you’ll help people to form the right opinion of you.