When our kids failed to meet our expectation at school, what would we do? Do we spank them or raise our voice or insult them to make them feel they should work out more on their studies? I know we want them to get high grades in school but what if, no matter how hard they tried, they just could not meet your expectation.
My eldest daughter is an average student, sometimes she could not make it, and sometimes it is easy for her. I used to scold her before but I’ve learned my lessons, I realized I just have to talk to her calmly and broadened my understanding, all kids are different, they have different skills and likes and we could not insist what we want but we could support them what they want so they could achieve their dreams.
I have posted it here the part 1 of the Alphabet for Parents, and this is the continuation of it. It is from the book Dealing Positively with Children by Corazon Ples Padilla, Ed.D and Rosario Ples Nem Singh, M.A.
- Manage your home schedule: chores, television, etc., for your child. Don’t let these activities do the managing.
- Notice changes in your child’s attitudes, emotions, interests and appearance.
- Open new doors of experience for your child by encouraging lessons in art, music, athletics, foreign languages, typing, domestic, and mechanical arts.
- Pray with your child. “The family that prays together stays forever.
- Quiz your child before tests and other competitive events.
- Refrain from open criticism of any type of authority in the presence of your child.
- Seek for yourself the Kingdom of GOD, and you child will follow you.
- Teach your child the art of self-control, the beauty of inner virtue, the honor of patriotic service, and social graces of refined people.
- Use all the available opportunities offered by your city and nation to develop and perfect the talents of your child.
- Venerate your religion, the sacred liturgy, the sacraments, the things of GOD. Your child is “another you”: she will do the same.
- Welcome suggestions, both laudatory and critical with an open mind.
- Examine your child’s work with interest, encouragement, and recommendations.
- Yield to your child’s request for exceptions or favors only when the best interest of your child is served.
- Zealously embrace this privileged task of rearing your child in the image of GOD with hope, confidence, and gratitude to the One whose creative power you share.