It is true that sometimes we overpower as parents, we always tell our kids to be like this and like that but don’t you think to stop for a moment and scrutinize yourself if what you want your kids to imply is good for her or is it because it is good for you. We sometimes forget that our kids also have their own thoughts, likes and they have the right also to follow what they want. We sometimes forget that we are just here to guide them and not to blame them when they were wrong.
We do want them to do good in school but have we ask them their daily activities or problems at school? We don’t want them to be wrong but have we went to their school and check on them or we always would say we are so busy to do so and that our kids has to understand about that, do we understand them that they also need our time too?
Here’s some interesting guide I took from the book I just bought, it is called Alphabet for Parents.
- Ask your child daily about his day at school like activities, play, problems.
- Believe that corrections made are in the best interest of your child.
- Consult with the Mistress of Class about your child’s progress, character, attitudes.
- Demand respect and obedience at home and your child’s success is guaranteed.
- Encourage your child to prompt acts of generosity, self sacrifice, self-forgetfulness.
- Familiarize your child with the best in literature, television, and recreation.
- Gather your child’s associates together, and get to know them well.
- Have high, but realistic ideals for your child; respect and develop his talent.
- Inspire your child by your own example and through heart-to-heart talks.
- Judge a situation only after listening to both sides of the story.
- Know where your child is after school and on weekends.
- Learn with your child through your selective reading and personal study.
To be continued…
Source: Dealing Positively with Children
Corazon Ples Padilla, Ed.D
Rosario Ples Nem Singh, M.A.