When Mj entered first grade, some days she would tell me that someone hits her on the head or the worst on her tummy. There was one time as I could not bear it at all, I really went to school and confronted the kid, I really shouted at him because he did it for so many times to Mj already and Mj always feel so helpless. I know I should talk to the teacher first but geez what will you do when you hear the complaint over and over again, I should take some action and interfere so the other kid will know that he can’t do that to his classmate because there are some parents who could give him a lesson.
Anyway, I read this in the magazine that listening could help the bully one in many ways. When the child started to open up to you, be mindful because they are taking a risk, when a child is opening up their activities or even disappointments in school, meaning they trust you enough.
Don’t Rationalize: Meaning, you have to let the child speak to their mind, as I said simply listening could help them opening up.
It Is Not An Option To Fight Back Or To Avoid The Bully: Because fighting back would lead to worst scenario. He or she could hurt the bully very badly that would lead him or her to death; you don’t want your kid to be responsible of the death of her or his classmate right? In the contrary, avoiding the bully could be a short solution to a long term problem.
Don’t Encourage Confronting The Bully Alone: It is best to have a 3rd party involve during confrontation so whatever happen the third party could be a witness.
Know the School Policies: Check the school rules and policies of the school when regards to bully. I am so happy that the school of Faith is really giving attention to those kids who are bully.
Make Sure That You Have The Written Report: Make the facts into details of the case and so when there’s schedule for a meeting with other parties involve, you can give the incident into details.
Have A Meeting With All Concerned Parties: It does not include only the bully and the bullied but the parents of both parties and so as the School Administrators, together, you could have a better chance to point an amicable solution.
Got this from Baby Magazine December to January 2013 edition